Saturday, February 27, 2010

Tick Tock Tick Tock

Lately, I've become acutely aware of how fast time is going by. In the last year, my father turned 75, I celebrated (and I use that word loosely) my 25th high school reunion and sent my oldest child to high school. Dan and I were talking the other night about how fast Emily's childhood has gone by for us. She'll be FIFTEEN this summer, she has a job lined up, she'll be taking driver's ed in the next year. And to us, she's still that three-year-old with the vocabulary of an adult and the attitude to match who used to love to watch for purple cars on our street. Luckily, Jake, who will be 12 in October, is bringing up the rear in fine fashion and we don't feel like the time with him is marching by quite so quickly. It helps that we held him out of school an extra year and will have him with us until he's almost 19. Our kids represent the classic tale of the tortoise and the hare.

The passing of many of the critical adults in my life hasn't helped to ease this mid-life crisis. My mother, my in-laws, two aunts, an uncle, the parents of close friends, and not for nothing, my two beloved dogs. All of that in the last six years. We like to refer to the last decade as the shitstorm of misery.

I remember almost 12 years ago when I hired my coworker Jenn right out of college and discovered she was ten years younger than me. When had that happened? Now the new "kids" in my office are 22 years younger than me, which is all the more shocking. Last week, when I was in Washington, I spent some time getting to know my boss's new assistant, a nice "kid" named Louise, whose father is a longtime member of our association. I liked Louise right out of the gate because she makes me laugh with her witty retorts. In the course of our conversation, I realized she is only going to be 25 this year. Cripes, I said, I've been out of high school 26 years this year. You know what that means? To which she replied in her typical witty fashion, Hello, Mommy. ACK! She's a brat, but that's another story. She calls me Mom now, which is kind of funny—and not funny at the same time.

HOW did this happen? WHEN did this happen? WHERE WAS I when this was happening? I'm staring down the double 4s this spring and I don't feel 44. Well, somedays I do, but for the most part I feel maybe 30. Then my taller-than-me daughter prances through the house at almost 15, a shocking reminder that I'm not 30 anymore. Hell, I'm not even 40 anymore. I'm in my *gasp* MID-FORTIES. ACK! (Are you sensing my theme word today?)

So what makes me feel better about all this getting older business? Well, Dan did me a huge favor by turning 49 last weekend, which reminded me that it could be worse. Much, much worse. :-)


Judy F said...

Oh Marie you picked a good day for this blog. I got in the mail today an application for AARP for god's sake. LOl Bad enough I will be 50 next saturday but do you have to remind me AARP. Lordy.

I am like you I don't feel 49(currently) I feel like in my mid 30's or so. But I tell ya I sure don't recover from things like I used to. I shovelled last week a lot and thought I would never move again.

As you know its been a rough year losing my dad and some friends and other relatives and its only Feb. Time goes so fast.

My great niece just turned 3 and is having a skating party tomorow. Looking forward to that. But I am sure not skating. LOL

Hugs Marie.

Kara said...

I know what you mean about time going by so oldest is 18 getting ready to turn 19 in July...where the time has gone I don't know.

I can't believe 6 years have gone by since my youngest was born...he will be in first grade next year.

The big 46 is coming up for me this year...but I don't feel like I am...

I remember as a kid asking my mom how old she was and when she told me 43, I thought that was sooo old...LOL.

oklanannie said...

Try facing the big SIX O (yeah, 60!) the first week of April. Now that's a nightmare for sure! Although my body doesn't feel 30 anymore (heck it doesn't even feel 40 or 50), my mind still does. I love being active and am so glad that I'm able to play often with my two beautiful grandchildren, who are three and seven months. Life is still pretty darn good.

Judy F -- AARP likes to nab you early on! I remember receiving that same application almost ten years ago and I was shocked!

Marie, I'm so hoping I'll get to read Jack and Clare's story someday soon. I was so touched by "The House that Jack Built" story on your website.

Marie Force said...

Hey Judy,
Whoa! Happy early birthday to you! The big 5-OH! My mother had a magnet on the fridge for years that said: Fifty is PRIME TIME, and I think that's so true. Our kids are launched, our careers are usually solid, we've found our way, have a little money to spend, etc. I'm looking forward to my 50s! Although, I'll be happy to wait six more years to get there! I am planning a Hawaii Five-O party for Dan next year. He loves that saying, "Book em Dano!" What do you have planned for your big day?

Kara, wow a 19 year old and 6 year old. You're doing a lot of years of motherhood! I know these are the very best years, and I'm trying to enjoy every minute. We had such a fun little outing with the kids today. Nothing special, but they are so cute and funny (and fresh). We enjoy them!

Annie, happy early 6-OH! Good for you for staying busy and active. AARP has been recruiting Dan for years now and he gets mad every time he hears from them. I like to remind him he IS retired from the Navy, so technically, he qualifies. He scowls at me! LOL! Thank you so much for your kind words about The House That Jack Built story. For me, that one never gets old. Fingers crossed that maybe one day you'll get to read Jack, Clare and Andi's story. I think you'd love it. I know I sure do!!

Judy F said...

No big plans for my bday. My family isn't big on birthdays for some reason. I plan on doing nothing but read all day.

I love Dan's party theme.

Marie Force said...

Well, I wish you lived closer. We could go out for drinks at the very least!! :-)

My family is BIG on parties and Dan is the first of our close group of cousins and friends to turn 50, so we will do it up!

Mary G said...

Hi Marie
Can I paraphrase - 44 is the new 34lol. Maybe because I don't look my age I've always felt that it's just a number & doesn't define us or how young/old we feel. I'm 10 years older than you & I play tennis 3 - 4 times a week, some of it is competitive. I don't feel my age but then again I don't know what 54 is supposed to feel like (or look like if you go by Hollywood standards). I just want to feel good & healthy & I don't care what the number is. I had Jason when I was 34. I felt like I was a late bllomer but we always said he'd keep us young.

Hi Annie
I didn't know you were 60 - just thought you were a very young grandma. I'm telling you now, my mom & grandma did not read the stuff we read. That'll keep us young too LOL.

Marie Force said...

Yes, stick with us romance writers and we'll keep you gals young! I wish I could play tennis 3-4 times a week. I probably could--I have courts at the top of the hill by the high school. Maybe that will be my 45th year resolution! LOL

Mary G said...

Yes but I bet your house is tidier than mine. You combine that with being a reader who has books, magazines & newspapers (recylced once a week) everywhere & you can imagine. I/m just going to tell people I live in a library & then it will look perfect.

Marie Force said...

Tidy house? LOL! Full time job. Check. Two kids. Check. Endless hours writing books. Check. Clean house? No check. LOL