Friday, January 27, 2012

Dear Diary: One Word—OUCH

The new mattress is here. They told us it would take some getting used to. We aren't sure we'll survive the "getting used to" phase. Dan suggested we both might need a sick day to recover from the first night. In the store it was soft and squishy and lovely. In our house, it's made of concrete. The good news is that Brandy had no complaints and slept like a baby. And of course that's really all that matters because the new bed is for her. Ahem.... We can return the mattress within 60 days if it's not working for us. They suggested we give it two weeks before we decide anything. I wonder if we'll make it that long. Dan moved to the sofa at 3 a.m. Not a good sign! On the plus side, the new bedding looks AWESOME with the paint. You gotta love when that happens. :-)

I got some good writing done yesterday on Hoping for Love, and we're up to about 45,000 words. I hope to bang out a big chunk this weekend to keep things moving. I'm also thinking a lot about Fatal Attack and hoping to get deeper into that one very soon. I was talking to my writing friend Jessica yesterday, and she was mentioning about how she is thinking a lot about her new book but not getting much chance to write. That gave me the chance to share one of my writing philosophies with her: thinking IS writing. It counts. If you are thinking about your book, mulling over where you want to go, getting to know your characters, or plotting as you drive, shower or cook, you ARE working on your book. Writers often fail to give themselves credit for the time it takes to puzzle out a story. If we aren't putting words on a page then we feel like we're wasting time. It all counts.

It's pouring rain here in RI, my favorite kind of writing day. I'm heading to the gym and then my Realtor friend Dawn and I are going to an open house at the house former Congressman Patrick Kennedy is selling in my town. Naturally, we have to grab lunch, too, so let's hope I can get my work count in this afternoon! Speaking of that, I used to think it was funny when authors would Tweet or FB about not making their daily word count or the various challenges to meeting the daily goal. I'd think how I'd hate to be beholden to a daily goal. Shudder. That was when I had a full-time job on top of my writing and couldn't set unmanageable goals for myself. I don't believe in setting myself up for failure. Now that I can do whatever I want during the day, I'm seeing the point of the daily word count goal. It keeps us from being total slackers! These days, I'm setting myself up for failure by NOT having a daily word count goal. Food for thought as I move forward with new life, month two!

I want to add a daily mention here of what I'm reading for fun. My reader friends at Marie Force Book Talk were gabbing about Lisa Kleypas (one of my all-time favorite authors) this week, and a few titles were mentioned that I hadn't read. Here I thought I'd read all her books, but alas that was not the case. Even though I'm supposed to be reading/judging books for the RWA RITA contest, here I am reading Then Came You (which I loved) and Dreaming of You (just started). How am I supposed to read RITA books when there are unread LK books demanding my attention? What are you reading? What's the latest book you just couldn't put down?

Last night I attended my daughter's swim meet (they won!) and she swam the 500, which is 20 lengths of the pool. Watching her cut through the water, it occurred to me that at no time in my life could I have done that. Neither of my kids are what you would call "natural" athletes like their father (they got just enough of my genes to ruin them!). Rather, they are "scrappers." They get out there and give it their all. They'll never be the best one on the team, but they bring plenty of heart to the game, which makes us very proud of them. Since it was a girls-only meet, I was surrounded in the stands by a group of high school boys cheering on the girls. That was the perfect time to receive an email from a 17-year-old boy in New Zealand who has been reading my books and "learning a lot" about women and relationships and sex and what is expected of men in these situations. The very sweet note from a lovely boy halfway across the world got me to wondering if reading romance novels shouldn't be mandatory for all teenage boys. Maybe if they better understood women and how to be half of a successful relationship, there'd be a lot fewer divorces. What do you think?

Have a great Friday!

4 comments:

Cheryl Brooks said...

My question about your new mattress is this: How chilly is it in your bedroom? My Tempurpedic turns to concrete if the ambient temp is too cold.

Love the idea of teenage boys reading romance novels. Not sure they'll ever be required reading in schools, even though they probably should be, instead of books that condemn women for following their hearts.

As one who has given up the regular job (mostly) for the life of a writer, I find that I have the opposite problem. So much so, in fact, that my DH accused me of becoming a workaholic. The need to produce in order to supplement my dwindling income is fierce. I bought all of my medications yesterday, and even after insurance, they cost $149. I'm not sure I'm earning enough to even pay to keep myself alive and healthy. So I keep writing and blogging and revising and editing.

Haven't read anything but the works of my critique partners in a very long time. The books from RWA are still in the bag I brought them home in. Sad, but true...

Marie Force said...

Cheryl,
Good point about the room temp. Since we don't get any heat in our house unless the thermostat is set to 70, it's always pretty warm in here. Mama doesn't like to be cold! LOL! I'm hoping it will give a little before too much longer!

Yikes on the workaholic tendencies. Don't overdo it and burn yourself out. Take some time for you every now and then. I'm sure you'll be just fine!

Monika Michalak said...

New beds do take some getting used to! But hey as long as Brandalina likes it! LOL

It is true that when you are thinking about your book and plotting in your head you are writing. My Hubs doesn;t understand. He will find me cuddled up in bed with the pup and ask if I am sleeping and I say "NO! I'm writing!" "Yeah...okay..." It is my thinking place! I have a new wip in my head and it is exciting when it is all you think about. And then finally get it to flow out.

I have finally been able to read again and have read two Susan ELizabeth Phillips books.

I do think that teen boys should read romance books. Having older sisters like our boys have helps too. I hope that even if they say they don;t care about their sisters that deep down they do and see what guys do that makes them miserable and angry, so they can avoid that when they have girlfriends. Or they are just learning how to make girls miserable and pissed off...LOL

Monica VB

Marie Force said...

Monica,
I do think that boys with older sisters are better poised to deal with women later in life. My son sure will be!

Hope your "percolating" is going well!