Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Living La Vida Mediocre

My husband Dan and I have a running joke with my friend Dawn. She is one of my oldest and best friends, and during the time I dated Dan, she was my roommate. The two of them have always been buddies. A few years ago, in a moment of supreme misguidedness on her part Dawn told me—IN FRONT OF DAN—that I got one of the good ones. I'm sure some of you are saying, awwww, isn't that nice? Well, if that's your reaction, you aren't married to one of the good ones! If you are, you know what I know: he'll never let me FORGET that I'm married to one of the good ones once he's been TOLD by a WOMAN who is not his WIFE that he is one of the good ones. You with me?

Okay, ladies, think about this for a minute. One of your best friends, who has had some experience with a few of the bad ones, gives your husband that kind of compliment right to his face. Say it with me now: Noooooooo! It's a violation of the supreme girlfriend code of conduct, and I've never let her live it down. Sadly for me, HE has never let EITHER of us forget it!

On a recent Saturday morning—before coffee—I was talking to him (he would call it badgering) about something or other, and he reminded me that I'd gotten one of the good ones. It was 9:15 on a Saturday morning! I emailed her to let her know her special brand of magic was once again at work in my life! I teasingly tell her all the time that she's lucky I still talk to her. Dan takes issue with the word "lucky" in that statement. On a recent night out with my high school friends, of which Dawn is one, I discovered an envelope in my purse with $20 and a note to buy the girls a drink from "one of the good ones." Do you see what I'm dealing with?

Last week, I changed plans to accommodate something he wanted to do. When I pointed out to him that I been amazingly thoughtful on his behalf, I reminded him that HE got one of the good ones. Oh no, he says, you are not allowed to give that title and neither am I. Only Dawn has that power. So he appealed to her and was granted her approval to refer to me as one of the good ones. But then it hit me: a lot of responsibility and expectations come with that title. Did I really want to take that on? In the end, I declined the promotion to one of the good ones and decided to continue my nearly 17-year run as one of the mediocre ones.

There is, after all, only so much room in the house the GOOD one and HIS ego! What about you? Are you one of the good ones or one of the mediocre ones?

11 comments:

diva donna said...

Marie,
That is too funny.
I too live with one of the Good Ones !! Thanks to my friend Nancy. Who's always saying I'm so Lucky to have this guy who's handy, who can cook, cleans and is a nice guy. And it's hard buying Hats to fit that swelled head. So I guess that makes be Mediocre too. And my hats still fit.

Marie Force said...

Ahhh, Donna, it's such a relief to know I'm not alone in at the mediocre level! Ironically, my DH needs an extra large hat, too. Hmmmm....

Cheryl Brooks said...

Great story, Marie!
I tell my husband all the time that I'm married to the best man I know. Haven't met one yet I'd trade him for. So if he gets too conceited, I have only myself to blame....

Marie Force said...

Oh you are a better woman than me, Cheryl! I can't tell him that!!! I'd never be able to live it down!

Judy F said...

oH Marie you made me laugh. I needed it. Boss has been evil for weeks now and I needed a good laugh.

Sadly I don't have a good one or anytype in my life. Well my cat Sam is one of the good cats does that count?

Sheila Deeth said...

This was such fun. Sounds like you definitely got one of the good ones. But mediocre's good enough.

Mary G said...

Marie
That's so funny. My mom says only I(an ex-tomboy) would be lucky enough to marry a man who cooks, cleans, etc. If we ever argue they always take his side & I have to remind them that he's the "in-law".

Marie Force said...

Hey Mary,
You feel my pain! LOL! Get that family of yours under control!! :-) Thanks for stopping by the blog!

Mary G said...

BTW , I didn't mention that I LOVED your books & while visiting blogs will mention them when people ask for recommendations. I absolutely love smart,sexy,funny writing (not necessarily in that order LOL)

Marie Force said...

Aww,thanks so much, Mary!! It's always thrilling to hear that. I really appreciate you recommending my books to other readers! You can't beat word of mouth!!

flchen1 said...

LOL! Marie, congrats on getting a good one, and one being a good one (whether or not you choose to accept the title and the responsibilities it confers ;)) Thank you so much for making me smile today! I'm so glad I had time to stop by your blog today and get caught up a little with what's going on in your world :)